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WittyProfileName2 [she/her]@hexbear.net to The Dredge Tank@hexbear.netEnglish · 7 months ago

Cis people'll throw out takes like this and then wonder why trans people are so defensive of their online spaces.

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Cis people'll throw out takes like this and then wonder why trans people are so defensive of their online spaces.

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WittyProfileName2 [she/her]@hexbear.net to The Dredge Tank@hexbear.netEnglish · 7 months ago
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Tbh this whole post is a goldmine of cis lemmitors discussing how overly sensitive they think trans people are around pronouns.

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    Olympian-level mental gymnastics to defend misgendering someone clown

    Also, “tbh honest” ATM Machine

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      That someone was me!

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        You got a half dozen listed acceptable pronouns and they still misgendered you? That’s impressive.

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          OPs app didn’t display my pronouns, it honored the newlines I put in there

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            I’ll never understand why people decide to use an app to duplicate the function of a website.

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              Me neither, but it means I get to try and fuck with them. I was hoping they would show the full display name with linebreaks rather than just the first line though.

              Think about it, having the below displayed as username/display name

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                apparently the APP truncates it

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        I know, saw that and was like, wtf. You have some of the most pronouns listed I have seen, and they somehow defaulted to he/him? That’s ridiculous.

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          To be entirely fair, I have been fucking about with my display name (adding newlines in it), and the user who got banned seems to have been using an app that was affected by this

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            Ah, gotcha. Still, the ones defending the misgendering are fucked.

            Still, that’s good information to have, glad OP didn’t seem to do it out of malice and owned up to it.

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              I mean, i get that people make mistakes, may not see pronoun tags etc., where it gets interesting is how people react when you mention to them they misgendered somebody and ask them to correct it. Like, you’ll literally post “hey, this person’s pronouns are (… / …), your post misgenders that person, can you please edit this?” and they’ll immediately go into berserk mode. It would take literal seconds to fix, but instead people like that will go and write post after post about how you’re violating their freeze peach, and then on how rude it is to call them out on their transphobia, ad nauseam until they get the banhammer. And then they go to some instance where they aren’t banned yet and whine about how fragile and mean hexbear users are.

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                Exactly, libs take one scratch and join the fash. It separates the well-intentioned from the people who were always internally transphobic.

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                  And none of them seem to get that they got banned for doubling and trippling down on the misgendering instead of “for just accidentally making a tiny mistake”.

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                    I think they do get it usually, they just twist it when malding to stir up a hate-storm

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      That motherfucker wrote a whole ass book and segmented it with a “therefore” like it’s some kind of master thesis on gender instead of just correcting theirself, didn’t they?

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        Tons and tons of flaming hoops.

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        Misgendering the idea vs misgendering the trans. Perchance

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      “Calling attention to my unaddressed racism makes you the real racist”-ass gender politics.

      Some people care way more about feeling like they’re in the right than doing what’s right.

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        “Calling attention to my unaddressed racism makes you the real racist”-ass gender politics.

        Unironically how my Lemmy.ml account got banned from Playstation@Lemmy.zip, the mod made a post complaining about DEI in God of War so I called them out on it and they banned me for “racism.” They ended up abandoning the community and said that I “proved them right.”

        Some people care way more about feeling like they’re in the right than doing what’s right.

        100%, it’s incredibly easy to not be transphobic.

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