cross-posted from: https://lemmy.perthchat.org/post/184069
All I found with citations was that it’s best to wait until marriage before cohabitation, but that boomer talk ain’t gonna happen for zoomers.
Otherwise, 1 article said “wait as long as possible” but I need a month/year number lmao.
i would consider it a well-known fact that there is a link between cohabitation before marriage and higher rate of divorce.
granted, divorce rates are rising anyway. but to be totally honest, if OP considers this boomer talk, it just speaks to lack of insight and life experience (which you will get when you move in with someone, to be fair). also, looking for an exact number to reach some kind of threshold just seems like a cry for validation. you certainly don’t need to gain approval from people on the internet to make a decision (myself included). you won’t need to know a number when you’re ready, because you’ll know the time is right.
regardless of what i said, i hope you find further research on the matter (try using pubmed or national institute of mental health resources) and i hope you find happiness if you’re taking that next step in life.
What the hell bro? For a psychology community participant, you sound very unwelcoming, and people feeling welcome is what Lemmy needs now.
I’m actually having a hard time believing that there is a link between cohabitation before marriage and a higher rate of divorce. Could you provide a resource for that?
From my perspective, I’d imagine that one would want to cohabitate before marriage as it puts the relationship through a “stress test” of sorts.
Well, It’s probably one of those misinterpretable stats. In this case, for example, it’s probably because the same people that get married without knowing the other person very well are also part of a religion or culture where divorce is frowned upon. For example: arranged marriages have a divorce rate of 6-ish%